+1768 – I recently took a trip with my best friend to relax. We were out at a bar having some drinks and enjoying our time together. A man all of a sudden sat next to my friend and started a conversation with her. My friend seemed to enjoy the guy and started talking to him. They were talking for like 10 minutes all while the guy was pretending I didn’t exist and wasn’t sitting with them. He didn’t even greet me and only interacted with my friend. He kept flirting with her and giving her compliments while I had to pretend nothing was going on and sit there awkwardly.
At the end of their conversation, the guy invited my friend to a yacht party that he was apparently having not too far from where we were. My friend asked if I could join them and what the dude did was disgusting. He straight up looked me up and down my body (still not having said a word to me) and straight up told my friend that she could only come. I felt fing dehumanized like a piece of meat and just wanted to leave and go back to our hotelroom. My friend then ‘asked’ me if it was ok if she went to the party for a few hours without me and told me she’ll meet up with me later. I just told her to do what she wants and got up and went back to our hotel. My friend didn’t return until 6am the next morning. I cried my eyes out and the only thing I wanted to do was take the first flight home, but we still had a day left on our trip that I pretty much spent pretending nothing was wrong..
I already knew that my friend was considered more “conventionally” attractive but the fact that I was excluded purely because of the way I look hurt. But the worst thing of all was the fact that my friend didn’t even have my back and dropped me like I was nothing. Another example of how women our still mainly judged for their beauty instead of who they actually are.